Because of this, I have been called a slut on many occasions. Does this bother me? Well, somewhat. The term has a ring of negativity to it. A slut is dirty, cheap, easy in most peoples books. The type that will sleep with anyone. Stupid, and therefore indulging in the only thing he/she is good at: spreading them for whoever is interested. And that... is so not me.
First of all, I am far from stupid. A person needs to trigger something in me, by being creative, witty, a great person to be around both inside and outside the bedroom. I need to be able to connect with them on different levels and then sex becomes a natural part of the relationship. I can have sex without that connection and occasionally I will do it, just for the heck of it or because I sense the other person needs it badly, but it's not really interesting nor fulfilling to me. And so, I am also far from easy. The fact I can sleep with anyone I want to sleep with, doesn't mean I want to sleep with everyone. Far from it, in fact. I'm quite demanding in what I want to receive in return for what I give, and I honestly think I have a right to, because I have an awful lot to give.
This is why I may often come across as a flirt and a tease and fact is.. I love teasing. But I'm not just doing it because I like it.. I'm also feeling the other person out, trying to discover what they're really after. If it's a quick fix, getting their rocks off not really minding at all who is at the other end of it.. I loose interest instantly. Go surf the mostly flesh colored parts of the net for dirty pictures, download some porn, read a naughty story or whatever, but stop bothering me.
I prefer the occasional exquisite lovemaking over wasting time and energy on having lots and lots of non creative, boring, and therefore totally unfulfilling encounters. Like it or not, I am a gourmet slut.
Anybody calls you a lut, you send em to me. I'll maul em.
BeantwoordenVerwijderenYou're not slutty, you're freely and openly sexual, which is a wonderful and beautiful thing that I envy.
*huggles* Deal. Does your mauling service go for tax collectors and stupid supermarket check out ladies, too?
BeantwoordenVerwijderenWherever you have fans - you'll also have enemies for whatever reason.
BeantwoordenVerwijderenIts one thing to dislike something someone does - its another to degrade them for it merely because your standards of right and wrong are of a different caliber.
It goes back to that age-old thing of a man who has sex with numerous women is a stud, but a woman who does it is a slut. Do they really disagree in your choices or are they merely sexist? Tough call.
SL actually has a group called "Gourmet Sluts".
BeantwoordenVerwijderenI personally don't consider "slut" a negative term but then I don't consider sex (digital or real) a sin in any way.
If you don't mind I'd like to comment on Orchid's comment since that very same thing, stud vs. slut, I have noticed and wondered about for some time. I think the term is coined and used mostly by women about other women, at least in its derogatory form. Guys are more likely to use words like "easy", "sure thing" or even "popular" rather than slut. My guess is the term is born out of jealousy, after all in order to be a slut as girl has to be attractive and intelligent enough to entice a man (actually men) with her beauty, comportment and fashion sense. These quality would, of course, be a target of jealous hatred from other, plain or self-righteous women. Just my two cents' worth. :)