Stop whining, start fighting for it

Let's face it.. we are suffering from a global depression. And no, I don't just mean the financial crisis that is hitting hard everywhere. All around me, I can hear people complaining about virtually anything. Global warming, the arctic ice melting, terrible weather lately, religious differences, political issues.. and the list goes on and on and on. Usually, the response to someone mentioning these things is something along the line of "I know.. it's terrible". And that's it. We acknowledge the facts, and go back to sleep.

But what are we going to do about it? Ask this question and you'll get a "Who me? well nothing, what can I do?" For starters, you can stop complaining. It doesn't help, and it only enhances the facts. By mentioning these things over and over again, we only strengthen the negative energy that has us caged, making us feel helpless and on the verge of disaster. Once you have freed up the energy you have so far used to complain and feel miserable, you can start doing something useful with it. Try opening up your mind for a change. Realize there's an awful lot you can do. And it all starts with a positive attitude. Once you manage to do that, you will radiate positive energy and become an inspiration to others around you. Look at the word: inspiration. Put the spirit back in people.. awaken their soul, their core being.

And no, I don't mean religion. Although religion can be a great source of inspiration for people it has also brought us lots of misery. Because most religious people tend to both derive inspiration from their own religion but also: condemn those who believe otherwise, which is a big source of negative energy. Having a truly open mind means: Sure I believe in God/Allah/Jahweh/Oogabullah... not because I am a part of your religion, but because I see them as very useful sources of positive energy for those who believe in them. And whatever works for people, gives them hope, inspires them.. exists because of that very fact alone. How could I possibly tell anyone something they derive so much positive energy from, does not exist?

It is time for us to stop focusing on our problems and differences and start fighting for what is truly important. Bring back inspiration, bring back hope, stop being a part of the problem, be a part of the solution! Each and every one of us can bring a little bit of light to this world. By ourselves, we may be nothing but a tiny candle. But pictures millions of candles being lit all over the planet.. and behold, we have a glow that can be seen from the moon.

Next time you're about to whine, respond to someone in a negative way, put someone down because they don't meet your expectations.. think twice and say something positive or nice, instead. Whenever you feel the planet is going to bits: look at all the beautiful things that are out there, like in the video I linked here. I can go on, but I think you get the general idea. I just wanted to share this, because I think it's important but also to remind myself. Have a wonderful weekend!

A farewell

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Cold Turkey

Two days ago, both Ron and I quit smoking. Without any pills or patches or whatever, just the good old fashioned cold turkey method. So far, I'm doing fairly well, although I will admit I have my difficult moments countless times a day. Much to my own surprise it's not even the wanting to smoke I am having a hard time with. It's the side effects that annoy me to no end, and primarily the concentration problems.

I'm usually the type whose mind can easily perform multiple complicated tasks at once, I'm very organised and verbally strong. Now, the simplest things like making lunch or folding laundry take me forever, because halfway through I'll forget who wanted what or I'll stand with the one blue sock in my hand, just not seeing the other one that goes with it, then forgetting I need the second blue sock alltogether. I'll walk into a room to fetch that ehm.. yes.. what am I doing here? Or, and this one particularly bugs me: I'll forget I was talking to someone online in mid conversation, go do something else and then when they go "hello?" because I'm not responding I'll reply with a happy "Hi!" before realizing I was already talking to them before.

Apart from a bit demented I am also constantly restless, and even though I am in a great mood I just know that should anyone rub me the wrong way I am quite likely to snap.

And so I just hope I manage to make it through the first difficult weeks without caving in and without damaging my relationships with people I care about too much. I'm really not being a bitch or unattentive on purpose.. just a junkie going cold turkey to get rid of her addiction. Please, cut me some slack, okay?

Fifty Ways

Just for the heck of it.. another one of my infamous alternative lyrics.. enjoy ;)

Fifty Ways to dump your lover

The problem is all inside your head, she said to me
‘Cause dumping is easy in SL’s reality
No need for drama if you just want to be free
There must be fifty ways to dump your lover

She said it’s really not my habit to intrude
But you deserve much better and besides, I think you’re cute
So I’ll repeat myself at the risk of being crude
There must be fifty ways to dump your lover
Fifty ways to dump your lover

Just put her on mute, dude
Give her a ban, Stan
Spread the word that you’re dead, Fred
Just get yourself free
Just don’t make a fuzz, Gus
You dont need to discuss much
Just make a new alt, Walt
And get yourself free

Just put her on mute, dude
Give her a ban, Stan
Spread the word that you’re dead, Fred
Just listen to me
Just don’t make a fuzz, Gus
You dont need to discuss much
Just make a new alt, Walt
And get yourself free

She said it hurts me so to see you with that girl
She’s really worthless, and to me you mean the world
I said I like you too and would you please explain
About the fifty ways

She said why don’t you go invisible tonight
And I believe in the morning you’ll begin to see the light
And then she kissed me and I realized she probably was right
There must be fifty ways to dump your lover
Fifty ways to dump your lover

Just put her on mute, dude
Give her a ban, Stan
Spread the word that you’re dead, Fred
Just get yourself free
Just don’t make a fuzz, Gus
You dont need to discuss much
Just make a new alt, Walt
And get yourself free

Just put her on mute, dude
Give her a ban, Stan
Spread the word that you’re dead, Fred
Just listen to me
Just don’t make a fuzz, Gus
You dont need to discuss much
Just make a new alt, Walt
And get yourself free

The Mom Song

Just because it made me laugh so hard I had tears running down my cheeks.. and because sometimes people forget just how much work it is to raise kids.. here it is, for all you moms and dads out there: the mom song.

True meanings

In this fast paced world called SecondLife, words often don't have the same meaning they have in Real Life. Especially concepts like time and feelings seem to be quite different on SecondLife and those new to this virtual world are quite likely to fall into those pitfalls and get hurt, because they made the funny mistake to interpret words the way they would in real Life. Bad plan! So, having been around SL for some 4 years now, maybe it is time I share some of what I learned along the way with you. Here it is.

Hi, how r u?
Meaning: Hello, I am either a teenager or I think this way of talking is cool. I think your avatar looks hot and I would like to do unspeakable things to you, but I lack the imagination to come up with a more original opener than this one.

I have to go, but can we be friends?
Meaning: I would like to hump your avatar sometime soon but right now I'm kind of busy chatting up someone else who got here before you.

I bought some new couples poses, could you come over and help me adjust them properly?
Meaning: I need a lame excuse to hump you, let's see if you are stupid enough to fall for this one.

I want to get to know you better
Meaning: I would like to hump you.

It's your mind I'm after
Meaning: I couldn't care less about your mental capacities but hey, if it means I get to hump you, I can pretend.

I want you to be mine completely
Meaning: I want you to be available to me at all times.

This person is my best friend in SecondLife and that's all there is between us.
Meaning: Of course we have sex. We just don't see each other enough to warrant a relationship.

I'm a romantic at heart
Meaning: I'll go through the whole wine, dine, dance and rose petals thing if it means I get to hump you.

I'm poly
Meaning: I have difficulties committing since there's so many hot people on SecondLife. I will however be the only one who gets to play around since I am too jealous to let you do the same.

I'm a lesbian
Meaning: I'm quite likely to be a man in real life

I'm bisexual
Meaning: I'm either a man in real life trying to be less obvious than the "lesbian" mentioned before, or I am indeed female but quite likely to only play with women on SecondLife, since in the real world my husband would kill me if he found out I like women, too.

I love you
Meaning: Sex with you is fun and you look hot.

A loooong time
Meaning: several days

Forever
Meaning: 2 weeks

Stand by me - Playing for Change

Not just an incredibly well made music video and a whole bunch of extremely talented musicians from all over the world.. But also a song I love, and this version went straight to my core. Just listen, watch, but first and foremost: feel.